Searching for the meaning of Love
We each have many types of love relationships — parents, children, spouses, friends. And they’re not always with people; you may love an animal, or a place. Is there a single idea or definition that runs through all the varieties of “love”?
What is it aboout that one four letter word that causes us so much confusion? Is it because we use it so indiscriminately?: I love you, I love your hair, that shirt, those shoes, that cute wittle puppy in the window.
In some ways it is the most straightforward and simple truth that permeates life. It is the very life force itself. Without it there simply is nothing. When we see terrible things happening in the world, we often talk about evil but what is evil other than the absence of love.
I once read that love is not an emotion or a thing but rather a verb — an action and this is how I think of it now. It is the act of making loving choices both in words and deeds. Whenever we do something with loving intent, there is growth both for the giver and the receiver. Whenever something new is created whether it’s a delicious meal, a new garden bed, a poem or a child, love was the action and something beautiful was created from that action.
Confusion clouds the picture when we get overly caught up in Romance. Who doesn’t crave the heart pounding all consuming feelings we get with a new ‘love’ but this is simply brain chemistry and can only sustain itself for a short time. It serves its purpose in getting us to procreate (sorry to be such a party-pooping cynic) but then what are we left with? Hopefully something softer, quieter and altogether more stable takes over and we can go on living a loving, nurturing existence. If not then we go on falling in and out of love and searching for the ‘perfect’ one over and over again. We hope against hope that when we find ‘the one’, the big gaping hole we feel inside will be filled and we can at last feel completed.
I hope this doesn’t sound depressing because it really shouldn’t at least not when we realise that we have the power within us to fulfill our own needs (once we can work out what they actually are). Only then can we move forward and form loving relationships all around us including and especially with those closest to us. This can only happen once we let go of the fear (of being hurt) and the need (to be loved).
So in conclusion I would like to state that although I am not a religious person (I tried for many years) I am told that God is Love and I definitely believe in Love. I believe in its transformative power and its power to heal and bring about peace so maybe I do believe in God after all.