Is it like this?…
….or like this?….
I happen to think it is like both. In the first instance we are hanging on for “grim death”. God only knows what will happen if we let go. It is scary and it is terrifying. We fight to hold on because holding on is all we know. We learn to live with our fear and adapt to it. It shapes us and helps make us who we are. Even when we know that it isn’t working for us any more, the unknown seems infinitely more risky than the discomfort we live with.
Then one day something changes. Sometimes internal; sometimes external but it is something profound enough that we can no longer bury our heads in the sand. It is something that forces us to take notice and then we are really only left with one option. OK there may be a certain amount of screaming, struggling and thrashing around but then at the point when we realize we can hold on no longer, something transformative happens…..we let go.
For some reason the thing that has caused us the most fear for so long has occurred and what is the most surprising thing perhaps is not the chaos and drama we are left with but the sense of peace and serenity that happen in the act of letting go. We have no other choice but to give in to it, be swept along by it and to trust that eventually we will reach the other side and find acceptance for what has been and hope for the future.
Written by New Girl